True Leaders Break All The Rules
Many of us grew up being told to turn the other cheek, do not rub anyone the wrong way, just bite your tongue, and do not make waves.
I don’t think that any of us are trying to be difficult, but are exhibiting our confidence, are challenging the status quo, and are standing up for what we believe. Even if it means we are not getting the popular vote.
As an Executive, I lead, but I also am led by others. I don’t know about you, but I get tired of towing the line at times and zipping my lips to do what I am told. I also get tired of everyone looking to me for the answer and not participating in creative solutions.
It is important that we let go of the idea that there is something wrong with pursuing your thoughts that may lie out of bounds or worrying if others will approve of what you say.
As a leader of others, you must encourage openness, but also be open and speak up for God’s sake!
I know you have been a rule follower. But, I know there are times you have wanted to be “difficult.” Let’s talk about how you can break the rules- just a little.
Ask for what you want.
You don’t get what you don’t ask for.It is okay to make requests or request something different than what you are getting. You do not always need to settle for less than you want, need or deserve. The worst thing that can happen is you are told no.
— Should you get a raise?
— Do you think you need a new desk?
— Are you desiring a new opportunity within the organization?
Ask for what you want!
Don’t always sette.
When you ask for what you want, you must not give in through a negotiating process. Press and push back to try to get what you want. And, don’t be shy about getting the best for you.
— If you asked for a raise and you were turned down, reapproach the issue. Give data on what you have done for the organizational growth; the revenues you are providing; ways you are saving the company; and then explain what you desire.
Don’t get silent in a focus group.
A focus group is designed to bring a group of people together to get a consensus about what is best for the group. However, this type of group will not result in the best solution.
Our opinions get complicated because:
- Worry of contradicting our boss or co-workers.
- Desire to avoid conflict.
- We don’t want to be wrong.
- Our agenda clouds our focus.
- We carry baggage around.
By the end of the process of a focus group, nobody hates the idea, but no one really loves it either. Everyone understands there is probably something better but no one has the courage to stand up and speak up.
We cannot always avoid the focus group. Whether we are a part of one, or leading them.
So, if you find yourself in a focus group:
- Don’t be afraid to speak.
- Encourage others to speak up.
- Challenge the status quo and offer ways to create out of the box thinking.
- Be a little difficult and push back to get the best ideas.
I understand you were taught to mind your manners. I also know it is difficult to be difficult. Believe me, I have wanted to insert my foot many times. Also, not everyone will appreciate what you are doing. But, do it anyway.
When things get tough, your courage will be admired. Be courageous to challenge the status quo, exclude the narrow minded thinking, and do your thing!
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